Connections can happen if we have to courage to take our emotional armor off
In an emotional, funny talk, Brené Brown shares a deep insight from her research: We need to live wholeheartedly, lean into the messy side of life. Only if we let ourselves be seen, can connections happen.
We all know how difficult it is to lean into fear, shame and disappointment. How much easier it is to try to numb bad feelings by having a “couple of beers and a banana nut muffin”, as Brené puts it in her talk. Emotions can’t be numbed selectively. If we get rid of fear, shame and disappointment, we also wipe out joy, gratitude and happiness.
Connections are what life is all about: to our parents, siblings, spouse, colleagues, friends, or even complete strangers. Maybe this is why receiving an unexpected smile feels so good, and the loss of someone dear to us hurts so much. Yet what can we do? We can’t put on an emotional armor, because such an armor will hinder us to build up new connections or maintain old ones.
The only thing we can do is to remember that we are all worthy of connection. If we let ourselves be seen, other people will see us. This takes a lot of courage. Connections we thought we had lost will grow strong again, giving us strength and a sense of belonging.